Notice and Do for Partners
Mental
Load Man
✺ Tired of carrying the weight of EVERYTHING at home on your own?
✺ Feeling like the CEO of your family while your partner waits for instructions?
✺ Ready for your partner to finally understand and support you in the exact ways you need?
you love your partner.
You know they’re a good
person. But when it comes
to truly sharing the
mental load, it feels like
an impossible battle.
Maybe you’ve tried to explain it before…
How exhausting it is to be the one always noticing, doing, and remembering everything. Maybe you’ve had the same argument a hundred times, only for him to get defensive, shut down, or say he’ll help more…
but nothing actually changes.
This is the conversation
your partner needs to hear.
MENTAL LOAD MAN is a recorded real, raw, intimate conversation with Sam and Chas designed to help men “Notice and Do”—see the invisible workload of managing a home and family, understand what you’ve been trying to say, and start taking proactive action without being asked.
It’ll show your partner how to lead with empathy, listen without defensiveness, and become a more aware, engaged partner.
It’s not about blame. * It’s about growth.
We’ve been there. * Real change is possible.
It’s not hopeless. * This will help.
Mental Load
Man Will:
✔ Open his eyes to the unseen mental load you’ve been carrying
✔ Encourage real follow-through, not just promises to “help more”
✔ Spark lasting change, so you don’t have to keep having the same exhausting conversations
✔ Show him how to move past defensiveness, so he listens without shutting down
✔ Give him a roadmap with practical strategies to being a proactive, reliable, and equitable partner
You shouldn’t have
to do this alone.
MENTAL LOAD MAN is designed to meet men where they are—so they don’t feel attacked, but they do understand what needs to change. Let this be the conversation that finally clicks.
What’s included
Recorded conversation with Sam and Chas in 3 formats for easy learning:
-audio (like a podcast!)
-video (watch together!)
-full transcript (reads like a good book!)
PDF Guide:
-key takeaways
-linked resources
-additional answers to common questions
MENTAL LOAD MAN shows your partner
how to overcome common roadblocks in
the “mental load conversation” such as:
✔ Understanding the mental load for real: Why it’s actually so much more than he probably assumes
✔ Breaking through defensiveness: How he can be open enough to self-reflect instead of dismissive and invalidating
✔ Listening through frustration: Hearing and believing the valid pain underneath your anger
✔ What equity really means at home: Moving past “tit-for-tat” and keeping score to true balance and proactive support
✔ Good intentions, poor follow-through: Breaking old patterns and finally becoming a reliable partner
✔ Navigating different standards: There’s an easier solution than “meeting in the middle”
✔ The ADHD of it all: Practical strategies for overcoming ADHD-specific struggles
✔ Taking full ownership: Ways he can be totally in charge of tasks so it’s finally off your plate completely
✔ Addressing “what’s in it for me”: How sharing the mental load will make his life better, not harder
We’re
Sam & Chas
and we’ve lived this, too.
It’s not that Chas didn’t care. He just didn’t see the full picture. And I was too exhausted to keep trying to explain what I needed.
So I stopped focusing on ways I could “communicate better” or just “ask for help,” and what came next changed everything for us.
In Mental Load Man, we’re pulling back the curtain and showing you how we did it so you and your partner can too.
Frequently
Asked
Questions
What’s included?
Recorded conversation with Sam and Chas in 3 formats for easy learning:
-audio (like a podcast!)
-video (watch together!)
-full transcript (reads like a good book!)
PDF Guide:
-key takeaways
-linked resources
-additional answers to common questions
How long is the recorded conversation?
Just over 90 minutes. Substantial enough to really get into it but still accessible, realistic, and non-overwhelming.
MY HUSBAND WORKS SO ISN’T THE HOME “MY JOB?”
Managing a home and family isn’t a “one-person-job” and noticing what needs to be done at home, without waiting to be asked, is a basic life skill—not a gender role. The mental load isn’t something you get to clock out of and should be shared with the whole family.
How do I get access after I purchase?
Everything will be emailed straight to your inbox.
How long will I have access to everything?
It’s all yours to keep for forever!
Do you offer refunds?
Sorry, no refunds available.